RELATIONSHIP RESET QUESTION
Hi Kiara,
Our relationship is a bit tense, and we both feel lousy romantically. These ebbs are causing us to go haywire! Can you suggest any original strategies to help us reset our relationship?
Love,
Josie!
ANSWER
Hi Josie,
Do you remember your first date? At 8 pm, he picked you up. After your first kiss, you texted your friends because you were nervous and didn’t know what to say.
There is an end to the honeymoon stage of any relationship, no matter how magical and swoon-worthy it is at the beginning. Perhaps you’re stuck in a routine – or maybe you have a lot of unresolved anger.
It is inevitable that all relationships experience ups and downs. Day-to-day grinds distract people from prioritizing their relationships. It’s time to reset your relationship. It can be beneficial to refocus on your relationship. Consider it a wake-up call rather than an end to the world.
Relationship Reset: Four ways to reconnect.
1. Identify your relationship’s goals.
Without a direction, you will probably keep spinning around in circles. Setting specific, measurable goals will help you see results in your relationship. Planning a trip together, for instance, can make you feel more adventurous.
2. Get into good habits.
Relationships have a lot to do with everyday habits. Every day, check in with your partner. This means putting your phone down and focusing solely on them. Active listening can be a great complement to this check-in because it forces you to listen to understand rather than to respond. You’ll feel more connected to your partner if you check in every day.
3. Don’t ignore your partners’ efforts.
Reassuring your boo is one of the best ways to bond with them. Respond to their words. Reach back if your partner grabs your hand. By acknowledging our partner’s efforts to connect, we show our love for them and value our relationship. A happy, healthy relationship depends on it.
4. Engage in weekly joint activities.
Whether it’s starting a new Saturday morning hiking tradition, reading together on Sunday afternoons, or planting tomatoes together in the backyard. Put one new jenga block into the life you’re building together and commit to it with the same resolve you have for each other.
So how are you and your boo going to hit the reset button? Please share your thoughts with us.
Love,
Kiara!
