Never. Call. Me. Ever. Again. Almost all of us have said these five words to our boyfriends during a breakup. However, you may feel that you miss the guy and wish things had gone differently. Seeing your ex again is nothing new, but is it worth it?
Is it worth getting back together?
It is said that “behavior speaks louder than words.” Reuniting with an ex is never a wise idea in some circumstances. It’s a no-brainer: don’t get back together with someone who abuses you, physically or verbally.
Consider whether you can trust him again if there was cheating involved. If you can put the incident behind you, that’s fine. However, if you’re checking his e-mail and searching his coat pockets for credit card receipts, you shouldn’t rekindle your relationship.
While getting back together with an ex just because you realize that the other fish in the sea are all scrod isn’t a great idea, recognizing that you had unrealistic expectations of your partner can make for a successful reunion. Make sure to remind yourself of the good things, but also the reasons things turned rocky. Accept responsibility for your part in the breakup. Think about how you’ve changed and what you can do differently now.
How To Win Him Back In Five Steps?
Here are the steps to take after you decide your reasons for getting back together are sound.
1. Talk to the girls about it.
Consult your closest friends. They have nothing but your best interests at heart and will let you know whether this partner treats you the way you deserve to be treated.
2. Don’t ignore your instincts.
Take note of your tiny voice warnings and your reactions-they don’t lie. It might seem easy to get back together with your ex at the moment. However, if you don’t have your heart and mind in it, you’ll end up only making things worse.
3. Don’t hook up right away-set up a daytime rendezvous.
Make lunch your priority instead of going for drinks at your favorite after-hours lounge. Having fun isn’t a bad thing as long as it doesn’t cloud your thinking and your heart. Due to that intimacy, people often seek a rematch before deciding whether they want one.
4. Let him know what he’s missing out on.
It’s a good idea to remind him of the reasons he fell in love with you whenever you see him. Like you did in your early relationship, make an effort to look good. Put your best foot forward and he’ll remember the sassy chick he fell for before the fight kicked in and you turned into a heartless mess.
5. Make a statement.
If you still can’t win him back after trying all the above, you may have to make a grand gesture. This is a last-ditch effort to win his love, the full-throttle, hold-a-boom-box-up-to-his-bedroom-window grand gesture. You know this guy well, so use that to your advantage. Let him know how you feel about him in a letter if he is an intellectual guy. Show up at his door wearing a raincoat and black underwear if he is more physical. (And if all else fails, bake him brownies. It’s impossible to resist them.)
