QUESTION
Hi Kiara,
I feel like my marriage has become a bore, we don’t talk, we don’t go away on vacations, we just do our respective jobs every day. Could you please help me overcome this boredom?
Love,
Catherine!
ANSWER
Hi Catherine,
Love, companionship, and shared experiences make marriage such a beautiful journey. Over time, couples may face a new enemy: boredom. It is easy for couples to fall into a monotonous routine after the initial excitement fades. But never fear! Join me as we explore ways to rekindle a marriage’s spark and overcome boredom.
1. Take an adventure-seeking approach.
It is essential to introduce novelty and adventure into your marriage to combat boredom. Try new activities together and break free from the routine. Explore a new hobby, take a spontaneous road trip, or try a new recipe together to enhance your shared experiences with excitement and freshness.
2. Foster emotional intimacy.
There is sometimes a lack of emotional connection that can cause boredom. Take the time and effort to nurture emotional intimacy with your partner. Communicate deeply, listen actively, and express genuine appreciation and affection. Your marriage will be more fulfilling and exciting if you strengthen your emotional bond.
3. Put quality time first.
We live in a fast-paced world where work, responsibilities, and distractions are everywhere. To combat boredom, prioritize quality time with your spouse. Regularly dedicate time to each other. Take a walk together, plan date nights, or just enjoy a cozy evening at home. Connecting and engaging with each other without distractions is the key.
4. Get to know each other’s interests.
It is important to discover shared interests as a couple to combat boredom. Find activities you both enjoy and participate in them regularly. You can take dance lessons, join a book club, or even go hiking. The more hobbies you discover and nurture, the greater the chance your marriage will be able to connect and thrive.
Boredom is not unusual in marriage, but it does not have to last. Couples can overcome boredom by embracing novelty, nurturing emotional intimacy, prioritizing quality time, and exploring shared interests. Remember that it takes both partners’ effort and commitment to maintain a joyful, vibrant, and fulfilling marriage.
Love,
Kiara!
