QUESTION
Hi Kiara,
The worst pet peeve I have is whenever my boyfriend says “Nothing’s wrong”, or “I am fine” even when he’s not. Although he sometimes has a point, I find it unbearable because of my pet peeves. If you can help me get rid of this, I would appreciate it.
Love,
Jacky!
ANSWER
Hi Jacky,
Everybody has pet peeves, those things that annoy us now and then when we least expect them. Although your boyfriend thinks differently and you’ve got pet peeves, those little stings in your brain can lead to less productivity, which can ultimately lead to big headaches.
As soon as something crosses the line into a pet peeve, I follow the following paths as a guide:
1. Address the issue: I usually speak directly to the person annoying. In a kind and direct manner, I tell them why I disagree with their behavior or activity. If they do not have a vested stake in the matter, they are usually willing to accommodate. If they have a good reason for doing what they do, I listen to them, evaluate them, and try to reach a compromise.
2. Eliminate it: I eliminate what is causing the problem creatively and efficiently. Even if I need to dump a gig, find a replacement, or even change my patterns, my productivity will suffer.
3. Be sure to share your pet peeves: When you are lost in thought, do people tend to think that you are angry or ignoring them? You could give your boyfriend a manual like this to help him understand these subtleties and save him time and emotional energy in solving your mysteries.
4. Either chill out or confront: Pet peeves come in two varieties. First, you might be bugged by something, but it doesn’t really matter and you should just chill. The sooner you get over it, the better. However, in some cases, pet peeves can hinder your productivity and health. When situations like that arise, you have to act. It is best to confront a serious pet peeve head-on, no matter what it is.
It would say to keep your energy and time for more important things. Everyone has pet peeves and weaknesses. Pick your battles wisely, because being in a good relationship will always feel better than being right. Some things are worth arguing or fighting about, but most aren’t. Become a person with a cool head who can tell what is serious and what isn’t.
Having pet peeves can cause strain on your relationship as a result of being upset or irritated. If you want a long and happy relationship, please let go of them all. Identify them, and then set them free. Both of you will benefit from this.
Love,
Kiara!
