Hi Kiara!
I was so happy to receive your reply about my wife’s issue. She told me that Kiara is the best person to share all your problems with. Hence, I am writing to you, Kiara. Dear, can you please tell me how I can be a better partner to my wife because she is having anxiety? Can you please answer this question because I have thought about it a couple of times, but am unable to find the answers to it? So, please help me with your input.
Regards,
Joe!
Hey Joe!
                 I feel so happy seeing partners who are really concerned about their better half. The way you wrote your query sets an example of how a partner should actually look after his wife. Well, anxiety is an extremely important issue. Also, it gets difficult to understand someone else’s anxieties if you do not experience them by yourself. If your partner is impaired by anxiety, it is beneficial for her to seek treatment with a therapist. Also, I’ve seen partners who support their partners who have frequent anxious thoughts. So, here are several things that you should understand:
1.) Empathy:
Whenever possible, try to understand your partner’s point of view and their triggers. Most people with anxiety have been through negative experiences in their past. It might lead to their triggered anxieties in the present.
2.) Validate:
People with anxiety fear that they are going to die. These thoughts are based on their emotions and not rational thinking.
3.) Support:
Some partners who deal with anxiety might heal with solutions and specific statements. It depends on the person and the situation.
If you are in doubt, just ask them what feels supportive. Simply, having someone around shows your supportive nature.
So, Joe, the best way to deal with an anxious partner is to be understanding and empathetic to how they feel. You should also take a non-judgmental stance and listen to them what they have to say. It makes them feel better.
