While people of my age are either getting married, having a baby, or dating seriously, here, I am covering myself under a quint and writing this blog because I am single!
Right from a very young age, we are encouraged to love and live with a partner. But as we grow, we suddenly realize that often, we lose out on the opportunity to love and engage with ourselves. No one tells us that it is okay to be single. No one tells you that there are many good reasons to embrace this singlehood. Readers, being single can be a profound and beautiful experience too.
Self-love and self-inquiry should be mandatory subjects in all our educational systems. If you do not get to know yourself better, then how will you know who is the right fit for you? Being single is your opportunity to dig deep and understand yourself. It is a chance to face all those shadows and dark corners in your life. So, here are the reasons why I am single:
- I understood my self-worth:
After a massive breakup, I realized my importance. I used to accept anyone who offered me sweet promises and love. Even though they never treated me right. So, after this, now I realized that I should be treated with honor and dignity. I am still single because I deserve the best and the right.
- I love being in my own company:
I love my company, and I do not need a man to entertain me or make me laugh. I can watch a movie alone, go out alone and chill for some time. Also, being single has never bothered me.
- I rediscovered “ME”:
After losing myself to someone, I found “ME”. I have found myself back. I never knew this better and stronger version of myself before. Maybe because I never got an opportunity to tap into this potential and strength because of people holding me back.
- I cannot function according to society’s set standards:
People around me are concerned about my singlehood. They think that it is not right for people of my age to not marry. I know what these people have to say, but they do not understand that I am single because of my choice. And not because I am scared or do not have options. These people have put a stigma on single women. So, I am not influenced by them.
- I feel peace with myself:
Earlier, I used to chase everything. But now, I have started making peace with myself. I do not want to chase anything. I want to be with myself and on the right track. Maybe, that could be another reason why I am still single.
- I am getting myself back together:
A couple of times, I have been broken and bruised. So, I am simply learning to put all those pieces back together. I have learned to appreciate the people I am with, the lessons I am learning on the way, and the experience I have experienced. It was not easy at all. Sometimes, I fell, and the other times, I just rose. So, another reason why I am still single is that I am putting back my broken pieces together.
- I am doing the things that make me happy:
I know this phase would not last forever. And, I do not know for how long I will be single, but I will cherish my company. I also know that sooner or later, I will find my better half, but good things take time. So, till then, I will keep growing.
- I am cherishing my freedom:
I love my freedom, and I understand that it comes without getting attached to someone. I can do anything, I can make random plans, I can head out to the movies, and I can call or text someone. No one can stop me, or I do not need anyone’s permission to do that.
- I am still dealing with the trust issues:
Somewhere not so long, my trust has been broken. So, I keep trying to shake the doubts off and give someone a chance. But, it will take some time. As a writer, I have never stopped believing in love, but finding a genuine one is challenging. So, another reason why I am single is that I have not found the courage back to trust someone again.
- I have respect for myself:
I would never want to play with other people’s feelings. I would never waste their time and cheat on them. Also, I respect myself and others. So, wasting my time and energy on something I am not serious about will not help me grow.
- Preparing for the right thing:
There are times I thought that a relationship was not just real. I have learned to disconnect if someone was not there with me. So, I have also grown because of these toxic things. Also, I am just waiting for things to get real so that if someone comes, I will get along with him.
Also, I honestly believe as a person you always need your “ME” time to grow and love yourself.
