The world romanticizes relationships so much so that we have this tendency to expect so much. Maybe, this has everything to do with the unrealistic portrayals of relationships in rom-com movies and books.
But, these days, the definition of love is so blurred- that we do not know how to express our love. There used to be days when the old school love would take all the derivative of being successfully simple yet would go strong with times. But these days, I feel romance novels have portrayed unrealistically high standards on how we express love to someone with a grand gesture. It can be anything like a candlelight dinner with rose petals surrounding it or giving a bouquet of roses to express your love…
Maybe, love has nothing to do with the things you gift a person because love cannot be measured; by the number of roses you give her or the number of candlelight dinners you have. Just because you choose to kiss someone in the pouring rain, it does not mean that you love him/her.
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“Someone said that “Money cannot buy happiness, and it certainly cannot fetch you love either. Love is not a romantic novel because in real life, relationships last because you make them work”….
When we say that effort is a need for every relationship, it does not mean just buying them their favorite fragrance or spending money and getting them their favorite lilies. The effort is a much much more intimate thing than just spending your money on them.
It is about paying attention to all of them when you are spending quality time with them by keeping your phone aside. It is also about being curious about how they have been doing and wanting to know your deepest thoughts and saddest feelings. It is also about surprising them on their birthday and making them feel extra special. It is about making them feel wanted and treating them in the right way.
Do you remember Cinderella? That blond princess whose miserable life was transformed instantly by her prince charming?
Well, she never knew what love was all about until she met her right fit! Her Prince charming genuinely made an effort to treat her the way she deserved. (That is a story all of us have heard while growing up)
The effort is never a materialistic thing. It is something valuable, something that makes you feel better whether you are together or apart.
“Love is about her not having to tell you what she needs because you already know it. It is all about those forehead kisses and cuddles on mornings because you know how grumpy she feels in the morning. It is never about making her feel like only she is the one who is putting all the effort into a relationship to make it work. It is also about making her your priority, no matter how hectic your schedule is”…
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SIMPLE WAYS TO PUTTING AN EFFORT INTO A RELATIONSHIP:
1.) Prioritizing them: Always make sure to update your partner about your whereabouts, even if they do not ask. Ask them about their day. Tell stories about how your day went. Make them laugh and try to communicate now and then.
2.) Go out of your way to see them: This always matters. If you love someone, you would go miles to be with them, no matter what. Even if you get to spend just two hours, that is more than enough.
3.) Write them letters: Yes, handwritten letters are never outdated. In a generation of technology and convenience, there is nothing more romantic than expressing your heart out on paper.
4.) Giving them undivided time and attention: As I said earlier, gifts can never replace your time and attention. Sometimes, it can be as simple as putting your phone down and paying attention to them. It is also about diving inside their mind and understanding their feelings.
5.) Telling them how much you mean to them and how much you adore them: It does not get any simpler than just telling them as it is. Even if the language of love is not words of affirmation, still reminding them how special they are will always add value.
6.) Never stop being romantic, even if they are yours: We live in an era of convenience, where it gets easy to feel contented in your relationship. But, you know what? This convenience kills effort. So, always show your efforts to them. Be affectionate with them. Be proud to show everyone that they are yours. It matters a lot!
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The quality of your relationship depends on your ability in putting an effort. The secret to knowing each other is by constantly making the right move and making things work. So, never be afraid to put any effort into your relationship and express your gratitude for the same.
