So, I would like to give you a brief answer on this through a situation. You went on an awesome date. The conversation happened, your connection felt natural, and you thought to yourself”. This could turn into something special”…Post this, a day passed with no word from your potential match. Then another, then a few more days passed by, and it is still radio silence. By this point, you cannot help but only wondering what is going on. The vibe was there, but now they are unavailable? Yes, nothing is more confusing and frustrating than someone ghosts you. When you get ghosted after a fabulous date, it feels confusing; and jarring. It is obvious to have questions about what happened and to expect at least to get a reply. But texting your potential ghost can be a bit tricky thing. What if they do not reply and do not respond? That is the thing!
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REASONS AS TO WHY YOU HAVEN’T HEARD FROM SOMEONE:
There might be many reasons why you have not heard from someone you felt an instant connection with.
- YOUR DATE IS GHOSTING YOU DUE TO SOME PERSONAL REASONS:
Sometimes this thing is unbelievable, especially when it comes to getting ghosted after your first date. Out of insecurity, we might question ourselves and think about our reasons as to why our date did not respond. The reasons can be endless such as Work stress, family emergency, medical emergency, or a broken phone. Apart from this, if you haven’t heard from your date even after two days, then- it is time to move on.
- YOUR DATE ‘REJECTS‘ YOU, INDIRECTLY:
When people stop responding to your messages and disappear, this phenomenon is called ‘ghosting. It is absolutely annoying and obnoxious and very cowardly for the other person not to respond. It is an indirect way of ‘rejecting’ you. So, whether you send hundreds of messages or call a couple of times, it will do you no good when it comes to ghosting. Just remember that this gutless way of rejecting someone says a lot more about them than about you. So, do not invest your time waiting for these people.
- IT DID NOT CLICK:
Sometimes, you get ghosted after the first date because of this simple reason: “ IT DID NOT CLICK”!
That does not mean you did something wrong or different to hurt them. When it comes to love: no matter how hard you try, sometimes you are not the right match for the other person. So, what to do in a nightmare situation like this? Dust yourself off. Put a smile on your face and think about your other matches.
- YOUR CONVERSATIONAL SKILLS WERE NOT UP TO THE MARK:
At times, boring messages are dull to respond to. So, make sure that you have cool, catchy, and interesting conversations post you get back home after a date.
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SO, WHAT TO DO IF YOU DON’T GET A REPLY FROM YOUR GHOST?
Putting yourself out there with a text message can be a bit challenging task. So, it is all about having the right frame of mind and setting your expectations properly. Make sure that you mentally prepare yourself for not expecting a text back. Keep one thing in mind that ghosts will ghost. If you focus only on what you can control, you will guard against the negative feelings that arise when someone ghosts you. I know it gets disappointing not to hear back from someone you thought was a potential match for you. But remember, someone ghosting you can be a positive thing. Just reframe ghosting as a gift. You saved your heart from breaking. So, the best final text you can send your ghost is “THANK YOU!” and then move on. The final takeaway here is that if you want to message someone you felt a connection; with after date, then go for it. Maybe they are ghosting you or, maybe they are occupied. There might be other reasons like they are nervous because they like you so much. The only way to know for certain is to drop a text message. Just make sure that the text is light and breezy, and if you don’t hear back from them, it is time to move on.
