Signs of true love

Life is what happens to you when you least expect things to happen. There are times when we believe that we have found our ‘Cinderalla’ or our Prince Charming with whom we write our “happily-ever-after” story. But, wait, if you think that you have found your “only one” pause for a moment before you say those magical three words and look for these signs of true love.

Love changes over time. What it looked like for you when were an adult is very different from what it looks like today. So, if you are experiencing these signs of true love, you can feel that you have found your ‘special someone…

SIGNS:

• You can be completely yourself around him/her: It is very normal if you want to throw the best light on yourself when you start dating. But, as the relationship progresses- and your feelings get stronger for your partner-you should get that time to relax and be more genuine. That means you are fine with him seeing you without makeup or in your pajamas. One of the signs of true love is that you get the freedom to be yourself. These little things do mean a lot in any relationship.
• Allowing yourself to be vulnerable: When you are in love, you are willing to reveal your heart out to the significant other. Love is always about trusting that you won’t get your heart break again. So, if you find yourself closed off after a toxic relationship, you might not quite be exhibiting one of these true signs of love, but give it some time. It takes time -even years sometimes-to get over serious heartbreak and fall madly and deeply in love with someone yet again.
• You want to do the best things for your significant other: You are at a shopping mall, and you see a shirt that your guy would love, so you just go and buy it for him. You don’t do this so that he can reimburse you for the shirt or return the favor. You do it because you feel like doing something ‘nice’ for him without any rewards in return. It is indeed one of the best signs of true love because you are doing this from a completely selfless place.
• One argument does not put a pause to the relationship: I remember the first few arguments my best friend had with her boyfriend when they started dating. She got worried that this will end their relationship. But as she started falling in love with him, those arguments became less scary, and she became more confident that these silly arguments won’t end their relationship.

• You can see them in your future: When you start dating them, you think about them in your future. One of the signs of true love is seeing a ‘future’ together and verbally discussing it. You are not just fantasizing about them, but you are picturing the small stuff too.
• You gladly sacrifice for them: Lovebirds in romantic relationships make sacrifices happily for each other all the time without necessarily keeping scorecards of who gives more than the other. As a result, these small moments bring joy and happiness.
• It is not all roses and unicorns:  When you were a teenager and fancied yourself in love, you always thought that every minute of it is magical. But then, when you experience this feeling, you feel sad and all lost. But, hey, that is ok. The initial days of your relationship might be great, but slowly as it progresses, your relationship; gets tested. But still, when both of you attempt to work as a team, these things slowly change with time, and you become more comfortable with each other.
• You will communicate and not fight: It is normal to disagree when you are in a relationship. But how you deal with your people changes the crux of the relationship. So, don’t fight instead; of this try, communicating. You might be effing furious over an issue, but rather than blowing up at him/her take a walk around the block, think and then again come back to discuss the problem rationally. It helps in getting positive results.

• He/ She is the first person you turn to with News: So, you just got a raise at work, and you want to convey this to someone. Who is the first person you call? If it is your boyfriend/girlfriend, then that is a good sign of true love. When you love someone, you want to share good or bad news with them always.
• You have told him/her everything about you: When you are in love with someone, you are not at all afraid to tell him all your deep and dark secrets. You have absolutely nothing to hide because he/she will accept everything about you. Yes, opening up like this is vulnerable, but it is a great step for your relationship.
• You are always excited to see him/her: It could have been a day or a week since you have seen your boyfriend/girlfriend, but you are always on your toes to see them again. You are never tired of being with them, and when you are apart, you have so much to catch up on.

   I am sure that you have nodded your head while reading these signs of true love, and now you realize that yes, you are in love! But the question is. Does your significant other feel the same or does he/she also get those butterflies in his stomach when you are around?

Pay attention to him/her, his/her likings, and his thought processes. The most important point here is to identify his feelings too and let the rest come in time.