Every year, a dating site in America releases data on American singles that the media incorporates immediately. Nearly half of the Americans above 18 years who are either single/married or dating online make good headlines. But one study that grabbed everyone’s attention was this, “Do men want to date intelligent women?” to which I just leaned forward and grabbed this masterpiece to read further.
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Do not talk about your work on a date, it is bad to earn so much money because guys will be afraid of you:
So, just imagine a magazine having the plight of the high-status women. “She is a well-educated young woman in her early 30s, earns a handsome salary, and has a good social life- but she is single and is worried that her success might be the actual reason she is not finding the right man to marry. Any hint of bad news about the talented person has always made headlines, but; media fatalism about the happiness and life balance of young, career-centric women has always struck a chord nationwide. The news was not good. Well, smart women are less likely to marry. Successful men are romantically involved with their secretaries. And if a woman makes a lot of money, men are intimidated. So, for a generation of Strong women achievers, no spouse- these myths have become conventional wisdom. So, if you have attended a good school, getting a handsome salary, and have career aspirations or dream of a bright future, men will likely find you less attractive. Many-a-times, my relatives have told me that “Do not you talk about your work on a date, it is bad to earn so much money because guys will be afraid of you and bla bla”. And after all this, I was very well acquainted with the word ‘intimidating’. I am not alone in this. Nearly half of single women always believe that their professional success is intimidated by men they meet. Or in other words, many high-achieving women think that their success is not helping them find the love of their life. There are some hard truths about this subject. Or maybe not. So, the short answer to this is some men like dating intelligent women, whereas some do not. Smart and confident men like intelligent women. Because she is more interesting, whereas- others think that she is more troubling than her worth.
So, let us understand this subject in the form of questions and answers:
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1.) Why do men have trouble committing to women who seem to fit in everything or the End Goal?
Answer: ) When we talk about women who are “end goals”, they are the ones who have their lives together; it might be the companionship men want, but they are just not there yet, so they cannot commit. But, women, even if you- have issues like these, you should still not get complex about it. Just wait until they find the right guy who will make them feel special.
2.) Why does that sense of men wanting to be a provider still exists; when couples still want a working partner?
Answer : ) It is the norm. There was a recent study on this that talks about what men and women think about societal pressures. The majority of men had put being a ‘provider’ and career success as; their priority for men. Women have also come up as an equal providers. But there are still these fixed gender roles.
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3.) If men are not fully aware of what is holding them back, how do men and women date each other?
Answer : ) If you talk to men, they will tell you where they are upto. Many of them will tell you that “I want to settle down”. Individually, it is in your hands how to structure your time wisely. Many women ended up dating men who all their friends said: “Don’t date him. He is not going to put a label on it.” But a lot of women learned that they had to be patient while dealing with this.
4.) How do women know when to invest in a man when he is not ready to commit?
Answer : ) A lot of this comes down to looking for things that we like in someone and maybe being patient with someone who is not present there fully. You have to see the potential in the guy and then decide. When you are investing in companionship, you have to look at the trajectory as a positive one, if they seem to be on their way versus just stagnant and feeling things out. Having that vision of where they want to be is very attractive.
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5.) So, what are the advantages of dating intelligent women?
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1.) You won’t get bored of her: There is always something to talk about with an intelligent woman. She understands a lot about the outer world and how it works. You can’t always have sex with her all the time. You are also going to spend a fair amount of time discussing things. So, having intelligent women by your side makes life more interesting and attractive.
2.) She will be making more money: This isn’t always the case, but intelligent women are more ambitious. It leads to greater career success. So, if she is earning well, you can quit your boring job and dream of following your true calling, and that is so awesome.
3.) She will make you a better person: If she has more IQ points than you, she will challenge you. It is also a good thing because she will keep you on your toes and will make you improve yourself constantly.
